The Bow & Arrow 🏹

Pastor Ed @ CBC

🏹The Bow & Arrow

Ephesians 6:1-4

Notice Four Principles that set the trajectory in Parenting: 

1. The Mandate for Obedience: (Eph. 6:1-2)
A) Action-"Obey" (1)
B) Attitude-"Honor" (2)
• Delayed obedience is disobedience.
• Attitude is everything.

2. The Means of Outpouring (Eph. 6:3)
A) Perspective-"go well with you..."
B) Possession- "live long in the land"
• Obedience = Blessing
• If you can't live up to physical visible responsibility, then gow can you live up to the spiritual invisible responsibility of God?

3. The Metric in Oversight (Eph. 6:4a)
• Provoke: Irritate, agitate, aggrivate
• Provocation fosters prolonged adolescence.

4. The Missional Opportunity (Eph. 6:4b)
A) Duty (physical/Emotional):  "bring them up"-To nourish them to maturity. 
B) Discipline (Emotional/Social)-To train in accordance of conduct and behavior
C) Direction (Spiritual)- "to impart understanding, to have a corrective influence on someone"
• Rules Without Relationship = Rebellion
• Be the first person to admit the mistake.

Psalm 127:3-4: Like the Arrows in the hand of a Warrior are the children of one's youth, blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!

The Tool of Discipline:

B:  Be Consistent

O:  Own your Mistakes

W: Words of Affirmation
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The Training of Discipleship

A: Acceptance comes from God

R: Reject Apathy (model godliness)

R: Resist Temptation

O: Obedient to the Word

W: Worship is Life

The Target of Direction:

The TARGET is TO the World, not FROM the World.
It's not your job to make Godly children but it is the parent's job to make sure their children have Godly parents.

"You Are Good" by Brian Johnson and Jeremy Riddle

"Sing To The King" by Billy Foote and Charles Silvester Horne

"We Will See" by Phil Vega

"Praise The King" by Corey Voss, Dustin Smith, Michael Bryce Jr., and Michael Farren

"O Come To The Altar" by Christopher Brown, Mack Brock, Steven Furtick, and Wade Joye

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Because You Are Young

1 Timothy 4:12

Unfortunately we have reached an age where adults have decided not to hold young people responsible for their own actions. When a "child" commits a crime, disobeys rules, disrespects, elders, the like "we" have decided not to hold him or her accountable. A friend who teaches in the local school system told me that administrators to her not to admonish students for cursing or talking back. When a child steals or does not show up to school, the parents are punished. This allows children to grow up learning that there is always someone else to blame for his or her actions. What happens when these same children become the adults?

As the lyricist writes, I believe the children are our future. Unfortunately we are not teaching them well. What's even more tragic is that in the future they will have to lead the way because they will be the adults.

In the scripture, Paul instructs Timothy to not allow others to look down on him because he is young AND commands him to set an example in speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity. Paul says in a nutshell that a person's physical age is not necessarily an indication of his level of maturity. Further more, physical age SHOULD NOT be a factor in submission to a legitimate authority figure, as Timothy.

Let's stop teaching our young people to pass blame around. Teach them what is right and hold them accountable when they do something different.