The Talk of All Talks: 🐦🐝🌺🍯

1. God's Design.
1. Procreation
1. Genesis 2:24 NLT
1. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
1. Leave Cleave Weave
2. Pleasure
1. Song of Songs 7:1-3 NLT
1. How beautiful are your sandaled feet, O queenly maiden. Your rounded thighs are like jewels, the work of a skilled craftsman. Your navel is perfectly formed like a goblet filled with mixed wine. Between your thighs lies a mound of wheat bordered with lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns, twin fawns of a gazelle.
1. Your body is a wonderland
3. Protection
1. 1 Corinthians 7:5 NLT
1. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
2. Man's Distortion
1. Love is supposed to go
1. Companionship>>>Commitment>>>Communion
2. Society reverses God’s design
1. Sex and/or commitment are often put in priority over companionship
2. Details
1. Rayah: Companionship
1. Song of Songs 4:7 NLT 
2. You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.
2. Ahava: Commitment 
1. Song of Songs 8:7 NLT
1. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.
3. Dod: Communion 
1. Song of Songs 1:2 NLT
1. Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine.

1. LIES
1. We love each other.
1. Be forward thinking not to take something that isn't yours.
2. 1 Thessalonians 4:6
1. Never harm or cheat a fellow believer in this matter by violating his wife,[a] for the Lord avenges all such sins, as we have solemnly warned you before.
2. Sex is just physical. (NO IT ISN'T)
1. “Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.” 1 Corinthians 6:15-17
2. Rape or molestation
1. Common emotional and psychological effects of rape include: Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) – feelings of severe anxiety and stress, Depression, Flashbacks – memories of rape as if it is taking place again, Borderline personality disorder, Sleep disorders, Eating disorders, Dissociative identity disorder, Guilt.
3. Adultery
1. In sex you give something away.
2. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
3. Monogamy is physical and mental
1. But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28
3. Everyone is doing it. (NO THEY ARE NOT)
4. I'm not hurting anyone. (It eventuality will)
1. Pornography
2. You Can’t Get Aroused by “Just” Your Spouse, you get lazy, wrecks libido, causes selfishness, makes sex sem like too much work, restricts your view of what attractive is, causes your spouse to feel shame
3. Job 31:1
1. I made a covenant with my eyes    not to look with lust at a young woman.
4. 2 Corinthians 10:5
1. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
2. Church's Desire
1. The Word
1. Bible Lists 8 Sexual Sins
1. Fornication, Adultery, Homosexually, Beastiality, Rape, Lust, Prostitution, Incest
2. Romans 1:26 NLT
1. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other.
2. Historically
1. The Church Dealt with Sexual Sun: Alienation, Assimilation, Avoidance
1. Alienation
1. In the past the church would disassociate itself from people living in blatant sexual sin. This is not right.
1. Mark 12:30-31
1. …you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength…Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these
1. I don't get to pick my neighbor.
2. You don't get to pick who you love.
2. Assimilation
1. In order to win the world you don't have to be like the world. 
2. Revelation 2:20-21 NLT
1. "But I have this complaint against you. You are permitting that woman—that Jezebel who calls herself a prophet—to lead my servants astray. She teaches them to commit sexual sin and to eat food offered to idols.  I gave her time to repent, but she does not want to turn away from her immorality.
3. Avoidance
2. The Church should go for ASSURANCE
1. We are for EVERYONE.
1. God doesn't condemn and neither should we.
2. BIBLE is in our name
1. 2 Timothy 3:16-17
1. All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.
2. Government doesn’t get to define marriage because it didn't design it
3. You don't have to agree with us to be with us. You don't have to believe to belong.
1. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 NLT
1. God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.
4. We might disagree, but that does not mean we are disloyal.
1. We will spend  the majority of our time talking about what we are for versus what we are against
3. Perfect People Don’t Go to Heaven; Saved People Go to Heaven
1. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 NLT
1. Don't you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don't fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God. Some of you were once like that. But you were cleansed; you were made holy; you were made right with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

I want an innocent love affair minus all the innuendo...

Sometimes I think life cheated me…

I think in many ways, I’m still a child…waiting for a boy to walk me home. A teenager waiting for the cute young man to ask to "go with" me, walk me to class with my books in his arms, and wait for me afterwards. I missed the innocence of dating. The part where talking on the phone was all you did because you were 12 and there was no way mom was letting you go on a “date”. The part where you couldn’t spend the night at his house because curfew was 10pm on the dot. I didn’t have a dad to scrutinize the guy and determine that guy’s intentions for his little girl. I was cheated. And as silly as it sounds, I still want it.

I want an innocent love affair minus all the innuendo.

You know where the only goal was to hold his hand…and once you did, it was magic. I missed the part where the first kiss actually meant something. And I want it. I want the magic and I want it to mean something. But it’s too late for that fairytale.

I had to be the girl who was teased…the one who no boy wanted. And when men finally started to notice me I was already too messed up to enjoy and I’m only just realizing that now. It had to be a trick, a game, anything but pure adoration. And whether it was or not, I shouldn’t have assumed it wasn’t. But it’s too late for that.

All I have is this moment…and in this moment I can’t have an innocent love affair because I’m too old for that. The innocence is gone. I’m not a child or a teenager, I’m a woman. That doesn’t even sound like the truth or even something you want to be. A woman…I can’t have an innocent love affair because anyone who wants me has lost his innocence just like I have (and I’m not even talking about sex). Life lifted her veil and ruined the splendor. He’s been exposed just like I have been exposed

So I’m trying to figure out what else I want…or what to do. Maybe there’s a knight in shining armor out there on his way to set this princess free and lead us into that great happily ever after. In the meantime I’ll just keep cleaning up after my stepsisters, combing my hair, and sleeping in between. 

All I have is this moment and I’m going to try to make the most of it.